eharmony...

an on-line christian matchmaker. friends recommended it to me about 5 years ago. i registered just to see what it was about never intending to ever go out with anyone i met on-line. a while ago they said they had the "perfect match" for me. i was reluctant to reply at first but after several friends told me i should i was going to respond then found it was going to cost money once you decided to 'make contact'

after updating my profile to who i am today i got another "perfect match" this morning. i liked his name (it sounded latin) and couldn't wait to read about him although i still didn't plan to pay to meet someone. (i forgot how much i used to spend going to bars to meet someone)

lo and behold when i signed on there was a message from him saying 'i don't feel that the chemistry is there' i wondered about it for a minute when we'd never had any kind of contact. i thought hm - nice height, right age, hispanic, christian. then i read things he can't live without - partner. then i felt sad for him.

so many people get involved in relationships simply because they don't want to be alone. they go from one relationship to another, from one marriage to another. been there, done that. all of my life before coming to Christ.

now i am single but i am in the most awesome love relationship. my dearly Beloved is always with me. He touches my heart with His Spirit and i am filled with love, joy, peace and contentment.

i feel sad for people that go into relationships just so they have someone to cuddle with at night, to eat dinner with, to watch tv with, to do things with, go places with and not be alone. they put everything into that new relationship at the expense of everyone else thinking that that new relationship will fix the ills of the previous one.

they are afraid of being alone. if they would only give themselves over completely, heart and soul, to Jesus, He would be their love, their intimate One.

for all the time you spend without a partner you can develop a more intimate relationship with Christ. just you and Him. the more time you spend with Him the deeper, more intimate the relationship. until you finally clue in - He's the One that completes you. you're not alone and you're not lonely.

i think when you get to that point, then you're ready for a relationship. otherwise you're just two people hoping to get their needs met. it places a heavy burden on each of them and the marriage breaks down when they can't meet each others expectations.

so i may be single forever. but that's ok.